You're in Control in Mediation

Mediation works. It really does.

But why?

Sometimes, people will say it’s just a waste of time. A repetition of each side's position with no movement forward, no resolution. And, yes, that can be true if that’s what each side chooses to make of it.

But that’s the thing. In mediation, each participant has the power and control to make of it what they want. If you, or your attorney, don’t want it to work, then it won’t. The mediator can’t make you agree or settle. The outcome to your situation is your decision. This is what we mediators call “self-determination.”

If you and the other person (spouse, partner, ex-spouse) want to get things worked out, then you most likely will. You’re both self-empowered to do so. The mediator will help keep the conversation on track and moving forward so you can reach resolution.

Mediation is voluntary from start to finish. You opt in, meaning you choose to take part in the process or not. You have the power and control to decide if you’re going to participate, at what level and if you will settle matters. If you both want to, then you will. Mediation gives you the vehicle to do so.

Like so many things in life, mediation is what you make of it. You can treat it like a waste of time and it will be or you can dive in and make the most of it.